People in the tickling community know me as Featherfeet. I've been a member for about 9 years now (I'm 27) and I've had a tickle fetish all my life. One of the things that I've seen repeatedly on the forums is posts by people who appear to be tickle starved. They don't get much tickle action in their lives and often feel like it is hopeless to have this fetish. I personally, have never really had this problem. I've been tickling and getting tickled since I was very young and even managed to convert quite a few girlfriends without tickle fetishes into full blown tickle lovers (and some friends as well) without even really meaning to.
Over time I realized there were certain patterns to my behavior that seemed to cause this effect. Part of this could be that I enjoy tickling more than regular sex and so I've always sought out tickling with my female partners. Part of this is because my tickling fetish is very split down the middle in the sense that it is NOT always sexual for me and instead is a bonding experience for female friends and me as well. (I even engage in tickling play with some of my male friends, but but for the purpose of this guide, I will keep it to talking about females.) Why will this guide be more towards men than women? Because when it comes to courting and getting what they want sexually, or in the fetish world, men typically have it way harder than women. (There are exceptions) but these days women kind of control the playing field...not that it is their fault. Men have become a sharp split down the middle between wimps and assholes in a lot of cases. The assholes who treat women badly are the ones who by nature are more exciting, but the ones who would treat them properly tend to be wimpy and have a serious lack of confidence and I see that all across the forums--men constantly second guessing themselves and their fetish, and people in general acting like there is something to be ashamed of.
Before I go further let me tell you what this guide is not: it is not a guide to manipulating your way into getting what you want. A warning I have to put here: any guys attempting this had BETTER respect women and do NOT go thinking that you can just do whatever you want. I have seen all too often men treat women like objects and do not show them any respect whatsoever. (I've seen women do this to men too, but the way men do it is sometimes just disgusting and disgraceful.) Granted, not all women are worthy of respect, same as not all men are worthy of respect--but I have found that only men who don't respect themselves openly disrespect women. (The same can be said for women who openly disrespect men.) And the truth of the matter is, you don't have to actually respect everyone you meet. In fact, you can downright dislike them. But you still should TREAT everyone with respect, until such a time comes along to NOT treat them with respect. Part of living a fulfilled life comes through respect, because it leads to love, and friendships and worthy human relationships--something that way too many people have forgotten in the 21st century in all walks of life.
I am proud to say that while I tickled or got tickled by over 100 girls, (and quite a few guys) I never ONCE did it in a way that was dishonest, created discomfort or in a way that a girl came to regret it or loathe me for it later. It was all fun, bonding, hilarious, and everyone involved had a good time. I have quite a few extremely close female friends in my life that I am proud to know, and who are very happy to know me. I have always treated the women I know with respect and have earned respect in return. And although I have gone through my own share of failed or bumbling relationships, I am proudly with the woman who I intend to spend the rest of my life with, for going on 3 years now, who is now a full blown tickle lover, thanks to her experiences with me.
Sound too good to be true? Believe me when I say it's actually way simpler than you could ever hope for.
A few truths one needs to realize before going further:
Tickling is completely normal, you should NOT be ashamed of your fetish.
As far as fetishes go, tickling is probably one of the easiest, most relateable and most fun fetishes one can have--even in the public eye.
Tickling is used in nature by several different animal species so humans who like tickling are engaging in something perfectly natural.
Tickling is an every day occurance, people with fetishes tend to forget just how normal it is because too many of us see things the way we see them and forget how most people see it. Parents tickle their kids, lovers tickle each other, sibling tickle each other, friends, relatives, the list goes on.
Tickling causes laughter--and the impulse to tickle is the impulse to see physical happiness manifest itself in people, it's very hard to make this out to be a negative when presented in the proper fashion.
Another question you might be asking: 100 girls, really? That seems very high. Yes it really is over 100 girls, one day I actually sat down and counted. Disclaimer: Not all of these tickles were full blown tickle sessions, some of them either only tickled me briefly or I tickled them briefly. (I tend to be more of a lee, but I like to instigate tickle fights in hopes of getting retaliated against.) But the number of them that I have shared full blown tickle fights/sessions/plots with (mostly as the victim) but sometimes as the attacker is easily in the couple dozen range.
What's more? I never once paid for it, never once have been to a tickling convention, and out of all these girls, only 2 of them I found out later had a predisposition in favor of tickle torture prior to knowing me. All of these tickles came from friends I have met in regular day to day life.
Alright, at this point it probably sounds like bragging, but the truth of the matter is I am aiming to put this guide out because quite a few people who I have shared my story with have suggested that I share this with the community in a way that could help others have similar success.
I will also state that this success has nothing to do with looks. I am not ugly by any means, but I am also no hearthrob. I have been a martial artist in the past and have admittedly gone through some periods in my life with the killer abs, but have had just as many periods with the belly coverying them thanks to all those nights going out late to restaurants with my friends. What do I do for a living? I am a lecturer, a writer, and work in the fields of publishing and event planning. More than that, I play Magic The Gathering, Super Smash Brothers, enjoy comic books and can in many ways be classified as a nerd--complete with the glasses that on occasion make people say I resemble Harry Potter. The point? It is not my looks that make all these women want me to touch them or get their hands on me--it all has to do with personality, the relationship with them, and how the act of tickling itself is presented.
Think of it this way:
Take a random person you know, any age, any gender and say the same thing to them in two different ways.
"Hey X, I'm really sorry, but we have to go to the store later."
You might get a response "The store!? aww dammit, why!?"
Now say the same thing in a different way. "Hey X, this friday we get to go to that store!"
Maybe they'd say something like "Sweet!" or "Cool!"
Granted, I'm being extreme here as there are some people who just hate shopping, and some people who just love shopping no matter how you present it, and that will be true here as well (not all of my attempts to tickle women were successful, or get tickled by them, and failure in this regard is just something one will have to accept and deal with because failure is matched by success more times than not.)
But you get the point, right? I can't tell you how many posts I see on the tickle forums suggesting that one "sits down" with their partner or their friend to "explain" their tickle fetish as if they are divulging to their partner that they have terminal cancer. Of course they are going to find the whole thing weird if you are presenting it to them as if YOU think it is weird!
People often ask me "how do you tell your partners about your tickling fetish?" to which I answer.
"I don't, unless it comes up, and then I answer quickly, honestly, without a blink of an eye."
The truth of the matter is there are many many opportunities in the course of a day that lead for the possibiility for a nudge, a playful slap, or a playful tickle. 99 times out 100, the reason so many people don't act on these chances is because they are afraid to. Why are they afraid to? Some say insecurity--and that might be partially true, but part of it is because people don't realize some simple truths about humans and human interaction.
Number 1: people like to be touched...in general, humans are social creatures who like to be touched so long as it's in a respectable manner.
Number 2: people like to be talked to, invited out to things and people like feeling close to other people.
Number 3: it's actually way easier to make friends today than it has ever been before because more and more people, despite illusions are actually more isolated than ever. (Statistics show that people's number of "real life friends" are diminishing each and every year.)
So, enough of the preamble and lets get down to the nitty gritty, right?
Check back for the next post and we'll get into it more.
Over time I realized there were certain patterns to my behavior that seemed to cause this effect. Part of this could be that I enjoy tickling more than regular sex and so I've always sought out tickling with my female partners. Part of this is because my tickling fetish is very split down the middle in the sense that it is NOT always sexual for me and instead is a bonding experience for female friends and me as well. (I even engage in tickling play with some of my male friends, but but for the purpose of this guide, I will keep it to talking about females.) Why will this guide be more towards men than women? Because when it comes to courting and getting what they want sexually, or in the fetish world, men typically have it way harder than women. (There are exceptions) but these days women kind of control the playing field...not that it is their fault. Men have become a sharp split down the middle between wimps and assholes in a lot of cases. The assholes who treat women badly are the ones who by nature are more exciting, but the ones who would treat them properly tend to be wimpy and have a serious lack of confidence and I see that all across the forums--men constantly second guessing themselves and their fetish, and people in general acting like there is something to be ashamed of.
Before I go further let me tell you what this guide is not: it is not a guide to manipulating your way into getting what you want. A warning I have to put here: any guys attempting this had BETTER respect women and do NOT go thinking that you can just do whatever you want. I have seen all too often men treat women like objects and do not show them any respect whatsoever. (I've seen women do this to men too, but the way men do it is sometimes just disgusting and disgraceful.) Granted, not all women are worthy of respect, same as not all men are worthy of respect--but I have found that only men who don't respect themselves openly disrespect women. (The same can be said for women who openly disrespect men.) And the truth of the matter is, you don't have to actually respect everyone you meet. In fact, you can downright dislike them. But you still should TREAT everyone with respect, until such a time comes along to NOT treat them with respect. Part of living a fulfilled life comes through respect, because it leads to love, and friendships and worthy human relationships--something that way too many people have forgotten in the 21st century in all walks of life.
I am proud to say that while I tickled or got tickled by over 100 girls, (and quite a few guys) I never ONCE did it in a way that was dishonest, created discomfort or in a way that a girl came to regret it or loathe me for it later. It was all fun, bonding, hilarious, and everyone involved had a good time. I have quite a few extremely close female friends in my life that I am proud to know, and who are very happy to know me. I have always treated the women I know with respect and have earned respect in return. And although I have gone through my own share of failed or bumbling relationships, I am proudly with the woman who I intend to spend the rest of my life with, for going on 3 years now, who is now a full blown tickle lover, thanks to her experiences with me.
Sound too good to be true? Believe me when I say it's actually way simpler than you could ever hope for.
A few truths one needs to realize before going further:
Tickling is completely normal, you should NOT be ashamed of your fetish.
As far as fetishes go, tickling is probably one of the easiest, most relateable and most fun fetishes one can have--even in the public eye.
Tickling is used in nature by several different animal species so humans who like tickling are engaging in something perfectly natural.
Tickling is an every day occurance, people with fetishes tend to forget just how normal it is because too many of us see things the way we see them and forget how most people see it. Parents tickle their kids, lovers tickle each other, sibling tickle each other, friends, relatives, the list goes on.
Tickling causes laughter--and the impulse to tickle is the impulse to see physical happiness manifest itself in people, it's very hard to make this out to be a negative when presented in the proper fashion.
Another question you might be asking: 100 girls, really? That seems very high. Yes it really is over 100 girls, one day I actually sat down and counted. Disclaimer: Not all of these tickles were full blown tickle sessions, some of them either only tickled me briefly or I tickled them briefly. (I tend to be more of a lee, but I like to instigate tickle fights in hopes of getting retaliated against.) But the number of them that I have shared full blown tickle fights/sessions/plots with (mostly as the victim) but sometimes as the attacker is easily in the couple dozen range.
What's more? I never once paid for it, never once have been to a tickling convention, and out of all these girls, only 2 of them I found out later had a predisposition in favor of tickle torture prior to knowing me. All of these tickles came from friends I have met in regular day to day life.
Alright, at this point it probably sounds like bragging, but the truth of the matter is I am aiming to put this guide out because quite a few people who I have shared my story with have suggested that I share this with the community in a way that could help others have similar success.
I will also state that this success has nothing to do with looks. I am not ugly by any means, but I am also no hearthrob. I have been a martial artist in the past and have admittedly gone through some periods in my life with the killer abs, but have had just as many periods with the belly coverying them thanks to all those nights going out late to restaurants with my friends. What do I do for a living? I am a lecturer, a writer, and work in the fields of publishing and event planning. More than that, I play Magic The Gathering, Super Smash Brothers, enjoy comic books and can in many ways be classified as a nerd--complete with the glasses that on occasion make people say I resemble Harry Potter. The point? It is not my looks that make all these women want me to touch them or get their hands on me--it all has to do with personality, the relationship with them, and how the act of tickling itself is presented.
Think of it this way:
Take a random person you know, any age, any gender and say the same thing to them in two different ways.
"Hey X, I'm really sorry, but we have to go to the store later."
You might get a response "The store!? aww dammit, why!?"
Now say the same thing in a different way. "Hey X, this friday we get to go to that store!"
Maybe they'd say something like "Sweet!" or "Cool!"
Granted, I'm being extreme here as there are some people who just hate shopping, and some people who just love shopping no matter how you present it, and that will be true here as well (not all of my attempts to tickle women were successful, or get tickled by them, and failure in this regard is just something one will have to accept and deal with because failure is matched by success more times than not.)
But you get the point, right? I can't tell you how many posts I see on the tickle forums suggesting that one "sits down" with their partner or their friend to "explain" their tickle fetish as if they are divulging to their partner that they have terminal cancer. Of course they are going to find the whole thing weird if you are presenting it to them as if YOU think it is weird!
People often ask me "how do you tell your partners about your tickling fetish?" to which I answer.
"I don't, unless it comes up, and then I answer quickly, honestly, without a blink of an eye."
The truth of the matter is there are many many opportunities in the course of a day that lead for the possibiility for a nudge, a playful slap, or a playful tickle. 99 times out 100, the reason so many people don't act on these chances is because they are afraid to. Why are they afraid to? Some say insecurity--and that might be partially true, but part of it is because people don't realize some simple truths about humans and human interaction.
Number 1: people like to be touched...in general, humans are social creatures who like to be touched so long as it's in a respectable manner.
Number 2: people like to be talked to, invited out to things and people like feeling close to other people.
Number 3: it's actually way easier to make friends today than it has ever been before because more and more people, despite illusions are actually more isolated than ever. (Statistics show that people's number of "real life friends" are diminishing each and every year.)
So, enough of the preamble and lets get down to the nitty gritty, right?
Check back for the next post and we'll get into it more.